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Teacher conflicts?
Just wondering if anyone has experienced conflicts (eg interpersonal) with a teacher that has led them to study with someone else. I had a major health issue that my teacher ignored and resulted in me leaving.
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What does this mean exactly - for example, that he charges you for missed appointments?
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As a guitar teacher, I see the street going both directions. I've had issues with students who were late for lessons, didn't pay on time, didn't practice etc. who I just discussed it with them and told then when the last lesson was going to be. And I've had uncooperative students who I spoke to parents about, and left the decisions with them to work through. Some stayed, some moved on. I don't see teacher/student relationships as having to continue for years or decades. If there is a rare one that clicks, it's a wonderful thing, but as a teacher now for more than 40 years in one city, many students take lessons for a while then take a break or move to other instructors. I sell lessons in 4 lesson packages, and it gives the student a chance to rethink and review how they are going. |
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I'm sure you can spin a sympathetic argument. Is your instructor available to provide the counterpoint? |
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My point is that I believe that, like in a marriage, there should be some kind of chemistry between student and teacher. As often as not that chemistry may not always be understandable or definable, but when it exists it is productive. When that chemistry does not exist it may not be as productive, will likely die.
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Sorry I know I haven't given a lot of context.
The basic gist of it is that I also work with this person so the relationship is not strictly straightforward - there are boundary and ego issues that come into play. It's kind of like the notion of whether a child should study music with a parent. Studying with someone else might provide a more objective and stable context. Thanks for the feedback thus far. |
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"Teaching" to a person who is close to you is a difficult and risky business. The role of a teacher is usually very different from that of a colleague, friend, husband, or wife. And then you get the roles confused. One of you sticks to the "teacher" role, while the other one keeps thinking like a "wife".
If you haven't tried a situation like that before - do approach the idea with some caution.
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It's a business relationship. Even though the best teacher-student relationships will have shared goals and mutual respect, the bottom line is whether you are getting the kind of teaching that meets your goals. If the lessons are creating problems in your work life (or vice versa) then I'd say move on, making it clear that the reasons are not personal.
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Absolutely! When I first started learning my teacher gave me a book and I was learning note for note reading music. At the time, Rock and Roll was king and pretty much everything was a I-IV-V progression. Had the teacher taught me 3 chords I could have gone home and played my *** off. That was when I was 15. Not until I was 40 did I pick up the instrument again and my new teacher taught me 3 chords and a pentatonic scale. In a week I was playing with him and writing my own funky blues tunes. Yes they were terrible, but I was learning and having fun at the same time. Had this guy been my teacher at 15 I'm sure I would have been playing, having fun and who knows where'd I'd be (guitar wise) now.
I realize there's a lot of hard work learning any instrument, but there has to be some fun in there. I have a friend who was learning the violin and never once strayed from the assigned lessons. After years of playing I asked him if he ever just picked up the thing and had some fun. "The would be away from the lesson plan and wouldn't be right." Seriously??? |
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I've been learning guitar since about 1965. My first 10 years, I must have gone through 7 different "instructors". They all had two major things in common, they refused to listen, and they were very interested in showing me how great they were.
Finally, I met and studied with Ted Greene. I wasn't really advanced enough to fully appreciate much of what he was teaching me, yet I learned. Why? Because the late Mr. Greene had never-ending patience, and a real positive attitude. Even though it took me twice the length of the lesson just to drive to his home, every minute was worth it's weight in platinum. Ted taught me to listen and observe, like a scientist! If a "teacher" has a consistent bad attitude, move on and don't look back. |