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Old 05-17-2019, 09:09 PM
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This post will be moved. but its time I put down the Booze. 12 steps dosent work for me any advice fellow pickers? sorry to even have to post this.
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Old 05-17-2019, 09:15 PM
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Good luck, I have been sober since 82, it took rock bottom to get my attention.

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Just wondering why 12 steps doesn't work? Asking as someone who has had four alcoholics in his immediate family.
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I've not been in that situation and can only imagine the hell it puts you throught. I don't know what to say except that I'm sorry for your struggle.
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Old 05-17-2019, 09:33 PM
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Hi Fl picker
Check out the site Smart recovery. An alternative to AA
It is online and also has face to face meetings.

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Old 05-17-2019, 09:35 PM
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You need to find the root of the problem.. It could be anything...Work...Home life...anything, Fixing the problem has to come from you first,
A reason why 12 steps works is because they want it to work..
And they use it as a soundboard to let it go, all of above.
Sometimes life can be to much and it's best if you talk about it with people who understand
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Old 05-17-2019, 09:42 PM
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Good for you. Itís a hard path, but youíre making the right decision.
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Old 05-17-2019, 09:51 PM
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Default Couple thoughts

1. Admit you gotta stop to someone close — someone who will know you’re cheating if you cheat.

2. NEVER NEGOTIATE WITH YOURSELF AGAIN. None of those private agreements with yourself. There’s no “I can handle 1 a day or every other day or no more than 2” or WHATEVER bs you tell yourself. Don’t trust that guy. He lies
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Find some one you connect with whoís has been in a similar space and succeeded. Itís work and itís worth it for the joy of better music making.
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Old 05-17-2019, 10:17 PM
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you guys rock....
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Old 05-17-2019, 11:04 PM
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My humble two~ 12 steps didnít work for me until I was ready to do the work. It is a program of action, and requires full measures. A friend suggested that I find another alcoholic that was in recovery, and talk - and talk - and talk.

In the community where I live, there are many, many of us that have found one another and a path to recovery. Call your local group, and ask for help - someone will listen, and help is often just a phone call away.

If you slip and fall, keep coming back - we donít shoot our wounded, and youíre always welcome.

If you need to talk , pm me for my number.
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Hey brother, I wish you the best of luck! Reaching out is a good 1st step.
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My last drink was in 1985. I'd also be interested in knowing why 12 steps don't work for you. First step is:

1. We admitted we were powerless over alcoholóthat our lives had become unmanageable.

Are you there yet?
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Old 05-17-2019, 11:48 PM
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I am in no place to advise, but knowing what you need to do (I.e., quit) seems like a crucial first step. I applaud you for that and am confidant that by taking it one day at a time you will find what works for you. Keep playing. I am glad AGF is a community where you were comfortable to raise this.
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Old 05-18-2019, 12:25 AM
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Wish I knew what to say but it sure feels good after those thoughts go away. It has been a decade or more since I was under its spell. With summer ahead there are plenty of activities to help keep tempting thoughts at bay. Guitar playing being a great one. Maybe do a walking program, or something new with someone?
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