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Old 01-10-2020, 10:35 PM
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...and she will appear.
Well, maybe.
Hard to meet someone when sitting at home.
I met my now live together girlfriend on match.com

I did wait several years after my divorce.
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Looking for female partner with love for acoustic guitars - please send pictures of your guitars.

Take it easy - I'm surrounded by fires - my car is packed and I'm ready to evacuate again like we did last week - divorce might be painful but this is hell.
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Default Over 50 dating challenges

If personal ads read like old automotive classifieds, I could just see mine:

"For Sale - 1953 full-size sedan: old-school highway cruiser built for both comfort and speed, high-mileage but well-maintained, no rust, upholstery a bit worn but still has all-original parts in excellent working condition, low-maintenance with many years of dependable service left. Spacious two-car garage available, seeking similar features in 1948-1958 mid-size or sports car; serious inquiries only to Box #67890..."
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I'm 10 years younger than you so maybe that makes a big difference, but I would not be looking to meet anyone new until I was 'me' again rather than mentally one half of a married couple.

Give yourself time to recenter and be yourself, by yourself. An instant replacement isn't necessarily a good thing. Your loneliness will push you to find someone- anyone- to be with and the chances that they're really suitable is low. I've seen it over and over. The pain of being alone is just about the worst reason to be looking for someone in my experience. You can enjoy being alone, then if you meet someone you are willing to give that up for, then you have met someone right for you.

What you need, imo, is a mens social group, not a date because when i say "alone" I dont really mean alone - that would be painful indeed. What I really meant was sans woman. You need company, so it's time to make a load of new friends. You'll meet someone when you're ready. Just let it happen.
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Old 01-11-2020, 06:07 AM
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AmericanEagle--

This is a time for YOU in your life.

If you write songs, write about how you're feeling. There are so many mournful love songs out in the world. Many of them were created from a broken heart. Some, were, or course, just commercial creations.

If you haven't written songs or poetry, now is a good time to give it a whirl. Don't judge. This is for you.

If you write, write more. If you play guitar, play more. If you paint, paint more. etc. etc.

And get out and let nature help heal you.

If it's too cold, go to a gym and pound away on a treadmill or exercise equipment. You need to physically move.

You will heal. You will discover a life within you that you haven't yet discovered. You will grow. And eventually you will realize that this breakup was the best thing for YOU.
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I read that as you've found over 50 challenges with dating. I came to inform you that there are way more than 50.

But I see that's not what you are referring to. Carry on...
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As you're in the throes of adapting to this new life, this might not make sense right now. However, I've come to appreciate the philosophy that I'd rather want something I don't have than to have something I don't want...
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I met my now live together girlfriend on match.com....
Many moons ago I was on matchmaker.com. I went out with half the women in L.A. It was fun! Then I met this one chick. Married her. I was 50. Still married.
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I'm 57, and other than a couple of 3 month stints with an ex (very long story) I've not been on a date in over 20 years. Just completely lost interest in romantic love relationships. I spent way too much time and energy on them in my younger years and now barely have enough time to do the things I want to.

Take your time and find yourself again.
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Good advice, and others have said the same.
I am just very lonely. The holidays were rough.
The problem with being lonely is that it seems at first that the only cure is to have someone else around. The problem with that solution is the only requirement is that the other someone doesn't mind being around you. Other glaring faults and mismatching of likes and dislikes, personality, etc, can get lost in the "at least I'm not alone" feeling.

In between my divorce and meeting my wife (of 25 years now) I had battled loneliness at the beginning of my new status of being "single" and discovered that being alone is much better than spending/wasting your time with the wrong people.

Remember, one of the benefits of being a single male is that you can say something out loud in your home and now not be wrong.
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Due to my upcoming divorce, I will be single again.
I am 52. I have no idea what the dating scene is like for someone my age.
Any thoughts?
Thank you.
I'd be on the scout for a prosperous, kind hearted widder lady, about 10 years older than you. Get a nice, old fashioned one, with grown, independent kids... I'd also advise you to wait, until after your "upcoming" divorce!

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Get a dog...
No need to bring another living creature into this.
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Old 01-11-2020, 03:32 PM
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If personal ads read like old automotive classifieds, I could just see mine:

"For Sale - 1953 full-size sedan: old-school highway cruiser built for both comfort and speed, high-mileage but well-maintained, no rust, upholstery a bit worn but still has all-original parts in excellent working condition, low-maintenance with many years of dependable service left. Spacious two-car garage available, seeking similar features in 1948-1958 mid-size or sports car; serious inquiries only to Box #67890..."
Well done! That made me smile.
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I would try to completely immerse yourself into social situations with groups of people to the point where gender considerations become completely dissolved (disappeared) - in that context the natural dynamic of couples form, which is a form of expanded consciousness where, again, “self consciousness”, and “what’s in it for me” is replaced by “what can we accomplish together”.
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