Sounds like it's time to play lots of different strings until you find the one's you prefer. However, for me, I try/play/experiment with many different strings for their tonal qualities - on a specific guitar - not tension. In the end no one is going to say - "wow, that guitar has great string tension". They, and you, will say "wow, that guitar sounds great".
Try going to string manufacturer's web sites and look at the specs for tension. I'll help out - here's D'Addario's. You can find similar information for other makers if tension is your deciding factor.
http://daddario.com/upload/tension_chart_13934.pdf
If you're looking for the "feel" of an electric try the Ernie Ball Super Slinky Acoustic Guitar strings. I've never tried them on acoustic but played them plenty on many electrics.