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At least when it comes to certain subsets of people in certain situations. One needs to "pick and choose" when he should care about how he comes across and needs to do something about it. Discussions of certain subjects with certain types of people on certain types of websites (most, really) don't qualify. On the other hand, at WORK, it's very important. Or should be to most people, IMO. It certainly is to me. Enough that I'm celebrating the last week or so, when we've managed (for the first time at this company, I believe) to get a significant number of engineers/geologists from an asset team at work and a significant number of "specialists" (petrophysicists, simulation engineers, geo-modelers) to all agree on an approach we took to characterize a field and how to go about modeling it for simulation in a way that allows for us to explore RANGES of answers that are as consistent as possible with multiple sets of data. It took a significant amount of work on the part of EACH of us to make this happen, but we're all pleased with the results. And management is, too. |
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Okay SongWriterFan - I totally agree with the exception of Work or a Job Interview - ABSOLUTELY - butter up the audience when those two situations are at play ,
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I'm even trying to acknowledge people at work even when I don't think they can be of any benefit to me (at least not in the near future). They do need to be warned, though (as did one of my favorite waitresses who complained that it took a month or two to get me to acknowledge her and start talking to her) . . . . with me, you can either put up with me not talking much at all or wishing I'd quit talking. So be careful what you wish for. |
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I'm not a psychologist but I do play one on the AGF. The original article that PSalad included is quite revealing to those that can take advantage of it. To the other 99% it's drivel though.
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IMO, Your relentless criticism of the article reveals something about you...and it is not a positive feature. |
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One of the things that I've learned participating in open mike, is that the more you find out about the personal philosophies and opinions of various members, it makes it easier to know when responding to a post will be productive, or a waste of time.
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It isn't about pretending to be someone you are not. It is about acknowledging that we are all different and unique beings. In order to exist together we have to realize that we need to accommodate those around us to a certain degree just as we expect others to accommodate or tolerate us.
When I meet someone new I try to find out about them in a gradual way by asking them about their interests, work, hobbies, family, kids...etc to possibly find some common ground that can become a starting point for a relationship. I steer clear of religion and politics for the same reason the Open Mic does. Those things are personal and not for discussion until your relationship has some firm ground to stand on...even then it is somewhat touchy. It is about realizing that the world doesn't revolve around me and not being a bull in a china shop in my daily dealings with others.
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Thanks for helpful reminder, and for phrasing it in a "nice" way. D |
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I would bet money there are people you care about who wish you were interested. It's just a theory, but I would bet money on it.
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However I don't agree that only 1% of the population can take benefit from, and take advantage of the content of the article. In any event, I think it provides a good insight into listening, the accuracy of how we think we are coming across, and how to become more aware.
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I take guitar lessons from a very talented instructor who is helping me learn the basics...I'm pretty sure that some day I'll discover what style I prefer to play...the instructor doesn't get to make that choice for me... Back on the topic of "experts" tho... I'm highly amused by the current phenomenon of people hiring "life coaches"..."experts" to help them make important decisions in their professional and personal life...PT Barnum was right... I've seen websites that will certify you as a "life coach" for $750... |
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Let me clarify the 1% estimate I gave with regards to people interested in the article. There's probably 85% that could benefit from that article as well as adjusting their behavior to accommodate others. Heck , I bet dollars to donuts I am in that 85%.
It's just like someone else stated though - unless there's a benefit for my change - why would I do that ? H |