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Yeah, I also get irritable when I don't get a nap. Hope you get some good rest soon.
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oops , reply to wrong post !
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"Mano y mano " is pretty annoying , from people who think they're saying "hand to hand" (mostly jocks on TV) .
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I remember once reading a definition of the label 'jerk' (British English 'twat'), which seemed to me an interesting one. It said a jerk is a person whose unabashed confidence in his or her supposed abilities and gifts is not shared by those around him/her. The jerk looks in a mirror and sees one heck of a winner, but s/he is the only one who sees that reflection. Coincidentally, I read that definition while working for a boss who would periodically invite members of staff into his office and boast about what a hotshot he was - how he had always been extraordinary, original, inspired. Hmmm ... Taken to an extreme, I think a complete mismatch between how we see ourselves and how others see us could be a form of mental disorder, where we have a skewed understanding of reality.
Another interesting dimension to this question is the sensation we have when we go to live someplace where no one knows us. Because of my work, I've done this on a number of occasions, in Scandinavia, central Europe, South America, and the Caribbean. In the first weeks, sometimes up to a month or two, I've experienced a very odd sense of invisibility. Here I was, in a completely different environment - interesting, yes, but we can forget how important our reflection in others' eyes is to our own sense of identity. When absolutely no one knows you, your hold on who you 'really' are can seem oddly vulnerable. In my early twenties, I found this sensation exciting, but by the age of 28, it was a sensation that left me temporarily down, with a curious sense of pointlessness. That feeling didn't last long, but interestingly it disappeared as I began to have an identity in the eyes of my new colleagues and neighbors. This makes me think that who we are is very much bound up with who we know and what we do with them. Last edited by ewalling; 04-26-2015 at 10:33 AM. |
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This individual is typically described as a leader . You have chosen the security of the herd . For some , this is not an option . Just a bit of insight on the definition of a twat/jerk . There are innumerable examples of the English definition being hogwash . Although , with England being sooo class conscious , the definition does not surprise me . I believe that there was a thread about the accomplishments of Winston Churchill here recently . Either way , I submit him as an English poster child for my claim of hogwash . |
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They often find their self-imposed-set-off from the herd leaves them as a "leader" of a group of one, rather than actually ever usefully leading anyone. Jerk/twat are often useful synonyms for such folks. And unfortunately, some folks seem to have no other option than to be such. |
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You seem to have partially misunderstood what I meant. I was suggesting that our construction of who we are, whether that be as party animal or loner 'individual', is in some measure dependent upon others recognizing us as such. Without that reflection, we may have weaker hold on who we consider ourselves to be.
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Merriam-Webster dictionary:
Jerk a : an annoyingly stupid or foolish person b : an unlikable person; especially : one who is cruel, rude, or small-minded c : contemptibly obnoxious person.
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I'd rather be less dependent on that reflection , and that's the direction things have been evolving in for a long time . Especially on forums, it can take a lot of time and effort to explain (my) life contextually all the time, so that people understand me ('who I am' ) accurately. So much easier to do less explaining , and have less concern with how I'm interpreted
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Yep!other people's evaluations are their problem not yours!
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The loner thing tends to be amongst the child/teenager types . There is so much to be learned in this . Dennis Rader did what was thought unthinkable , he stopped for years . This pig of a man was as vicious and hateful as they come . Of a type that was believed to not be able to stop once started . With this piece of info , it may be learned that his stopping could be more common than previously imagined . Hopefully , this is recognized and is useful in apprehending others of his ilk . |
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