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Gotta use that thumb to get notes on the 1st 4 or 5 frets of the low E sometimes!
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"But it does me no injury for my neighbour to say there are twenty gods, or no god. It neither picks my pocket nor breaks my leg."
Quote by Thomas Jefferson I've never asked any of my neighbors their religious beliefs, nor have I asked them who they're voting for...neither have they asked those questions of me... Maybe that's why I've gotten along well with everyone in my neighborhood for 25 years... |
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Can we really know people, though, without having some idea of their fundamental beliefs and world views?
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It doesn't mean "I'll never be friends with you" or "I never want to discuss this topic" or "I don't want to talk about topics where we disagree". Think of Facebook more as a media aggregator like Flipboard than an inventory of who one is actually friends with. The main experience in Facebook is to see what everyone is sharing. I don't want a bunch of heavily biased and one-sided information in Flipboard, I want a sampling of thoughtful, in-depth and meaningful sources which discuss issues. On Facebook, what people post about is what they're passionate about, and as such, tends much more to be "blog posts or articles which support my world view" rather than thoughtful discussions. At least more than a non-friend-based media aggregator like Flipboard. "Un-friending" does have more to it than the "stop showing posts from this person" function, as it is an overt rather than passive form of objection. But it's not at all the same as "I don't want to be friends with you". There is a relatively complex and sometimes subtle etiquette in play here that may be lost between generations of people who grew up with the platform and generations of people who learned or are learning it. |
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^this^
in the uk we have just had the Brexit referendum. This issue has been more devisive than anything in living memory. |
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Sadly, this does indeed reflect the level of debate.
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Well, in my neighborhood, there are musicians who help me out with my guitar playing, and ones I help out with maintenance on their motorcycles... There are backyard jams, cookouts, shared dinners and assistance when someone is under the weather or in a bad way, and a few of us have spare keys to the others home in case of an emergency... I suffered a broken leg about a dozen years ago, and when the yard service showed up the first time to cut my grass, my next door neighbor wasn't having it, and volunteered/insisted that he was going to mow my lawn for the summer... My wife cooked meals for the elderly lady next door, while I took care of other chores, and when the lady passed way, we felt as if we'd lost a family member... I think that about covers our fundamental beliefs, and when there are tragedies around the country or the globe, we find we can talk about the human side of things without getting out the political soapboxes...for the most part, there's just a bunch of truly decent people around here...and I still don't know how most of them vote... Last edited by Denny B; 06-30-2016 at 03:28 PM. |
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Reminds me of an old saying: "Hang on tightly, let go lightly." If we can let go of our positions, and others can simply allow us to float in the space of not knowing, it can be liberating to get input that differs radically from out own views, and which untethers us. But all of this can only take place within a relationship field of respect, trust, and openness....and while such personal qualities are not exactly rare, they aren't commonplace either. I think most folks choose a strategy that is like thst summarized by Danny B: optimize relationships by focusing on what is heartwarming, or admirable, or valuable, and steer clear of things St might jeopardize harmony and appreciation. Which is an intelligent strategy, IMO, even as it has an element of risk mangement woven into it, which might limit the horizons. But again, I don't think this is bad at all. Just reflecting on it for myself, and how it comes into play in my relationships. Last edited by buddyhu; 06-30-2016 at 03:56 PM. |
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It's recently been brought to my attention that for some people, the fact that there are disagreements between us can prevent even a friendly exchange on noncontroversial subjects. It's like, "I disagree with you on _____, so how can you stand there and insist that 1+1=2."
I've decided that a) some people just aren't very friendly, and b) that some people prefer taking easy offense and fighting to any other way of life, even among people with whom they largely agree. cotten |
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i can certainly get along just fine with them, as long as their beliefs don't completely infringe on common sense and normal behaviour, but the likelihood of a deep friendship is pretty low. |
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I've had extremely good friends...close friends...without ever going into politics or religion.
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