My Hero is gone..... - Page 3

fitness1 · #31 02-03-2018, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Silly Moustache

Our relationship had always been ...difficult ... but for some reason I whispered in his ear "I've always loved you Dad"
He opened his eye to look at me and a single tear fell, then he died.

That's so wonderful - must have given you some peace. He probably knew, but needed to hear it.

fitness1 · #32 02-03-2018, 10:17 AM

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Originally Posted by TomB'sox

my Dad and I shared golf as well and we secretly took some of his ashes and spread them over his favorite course. No one knew but us, the 3 boys each carried some and when we came to a spot on the course where we had a unique memory of a great shot or joke by Dad, we told the others of the story and we would leave some of him there....

The last two days I told him I was going to call and get us a tee time - one of them his eyebrows raised. We also had a standing joke that revolved around the fact he never hit anything below about an 8 iron. I told him I was going to send him off with a pitching wedge so that when we saw each other again he'd have learned to hit it!

saxonblue · #33 02-03-2018, 10:18 AM

Condolences to you & your family Todd, all the best.

nacluth · #34 02-03-2018, 10:24 AM

Todd, my heart goes out to you and your mom. I know you have paid a huge personal cost to care for your parents, but love is always repaid. We’ll keep you in our prayers in our shop (as you come up frequently in our conversation anyway). Thanks for this touching tribute.

Raggamuffin · #35 02-03-2018, 10:24 AM

So sorry for your loss, Todd...

cotten · #36 02-03-2018, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by fitness1

The last two days I told him I was going to call and get us a tee time - one of them his eyebrows raised...

Laughter, even at a time like this, is a good medicine. I am blessed to have caught glimpses of your Dad through your posts here and elsewhere, and I have grown to really like the guy, even though we have not met. I have also grown to truly admire you, Todd, not just because of your musicianship or quick wit or sunny outlook on life, but because of the way you demonstrated how love acts. I know that caregiving in situations like yours is exhausting in every way, yet you remained faithful. You made wise, loving decisions concerning your parents that were not easy or automatic. You continually proved to be a Good Son, and I don't use that term lightly. My prayers remain with you, my friend, and your Mom. You are an inspiration!

cotten

fitness1 · #37 02-03-2018, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by cotten

Laughter, even at a time like this, is a good medicine. I am blessed to have caught glimpses of your Dad through your posts here and elsewhere, and I have grown to really like the guy, even though we have not met. I have also grown to truly admire you, Todd, not just because of your musicianship or quick wit or sunny outlook on life, but because of the way you demonstrated how love acts. I know that caregiving in situations like yours is exhausting in every way, yet you remained faithful. You made wise, loving decisions concerning your parents that were not easy or automatic. You continually proved to be a Good Son, and I don't use that term lightly. My prayers remain with you, my friend, and your Mom. You are an inspiration!

cotten

Thanks so much my friend - coming from you that means a lot. One of these days we need to meet in person and maybe I can get a ride in that buggy of yours!

My Dad had many brothers and sisters, but there were a group of 6 of them in particular (Eugene, Harry, Woody, Marie, Betty and my Dad) that if you were around them and you didn't leave with your sides hurting, you just weren't listening. I LOVED being around all of them - unfortunately, because my Dad was the baby, all but his sister Betty are now gone.

upsidedown · #38 02-03-2018, 12:28 PM

Sorry for your loss.

marty bradbury · #39 02-03-2018, 12:40 PM

So sorry for your loss, you have great memories to treasure.

Barb1 · #40 02-03-2018, 01:11 PM

So sorry for your loss. Ma your dad’s memory be a blessing for you and your family.
Barb

woodbox · #41 02-03-2018, 02:20 PM

Hey Todd,
many of us knew you had made changes in your life situation to care for your parents.

It's such a wonderful story that you felt close enough to consider such an option.
Not everyone was blessed to have the Father that could be called a "Hero".
You know how fortunate you are.

My condolences here are applauding your Father for being a good man that has a Son who will truly miss him.
That's a legacy if ever there was one.

Tim
woodbox

Jeremy · #42 02-03-2018, 02:27 PM

Sorry for your loss.

Danno · #43 02-03-2018, 02:28 PM

Todd,

Really nice tribute to your dad, it choked me up a bit. I was the caregiver for my mom in her final years, and I know what a daunting job it is. I think your dad hit the jackpot, too...having you for a son.

I found comfort in this quote after my mom passed....I hope you will too.

“When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” ~Kahlil Gibran

Hang in there, buddy.

Danno

Larry Pattis · #44 02-03-2018, 02:41 PM

My deepest condolences.

My ol’ dad has been gone since 2003, and I miss him every day.

#45 02-03-2018, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by fitness1

...I told him several times yesterday it was OK and that I would take care of Mom.....64 years together, I know that was his concern...

I've noted that to be a common, and admirable, theme with many men of your father's generation. My good friend and luthier Homer Ledford was stricken with a degenerative neural/muscular disease and near the end said his only regret was leaving Colista alone. Like your mom will be, she is well cared for those who love her very much. What a blessing it is to have parents and role models who's first concern is others! We would all do well to learn from that.

Prayers sent for you and your family.