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Originally Posted by Puddleglum
I’ve experienced my share of loss, including a child. The thing for people to remember is that there is nothing to be said that can really help (though there are plenty of things that can be unhelpful).
The thing I’ve learned the most in grief is that there is no such thing as “getting over it.” We don’t get over things like this: we just change. I say be ok with going through those changes.
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Yes. Two important points here. First, there's nothing that can be said that's helpful, but there are plenty of things that can be said that are unhelpful. Second, we don't get over things like this. We change. A couple of us have mentioned that we are not the same person we were before the tragedy. I try to make that a positive transformation, but I don't think I'm very successful. For some reason, I've been forced to review every one of my personal shortcomings. I wince every time it happens.